wow…I never imagined I would ever concern myself with such trivial affairs till date! But alas, things change, and here I am thinking of a possible grad life which brings with it the issue of shared accommodation and room-mate!! I was fortunate enough to get very friendly and understanding room-mates when I was in my college! But I might not be that lucky in grad-school!!! The experience I talk about here can be either the best or quite possibly, one of the worst we ever have in our lives…. Thus it is extremely important that all possible issues need to be sorted out before hand and a proper understanding needs to be developed!! I was going through Texas A&M website and saw this interesting article which I am reproducing here……It is quite comprehensive and a good start for all of us!!!
Remember…You are your Roommate’s Roommate!
Your roommate may not be a mirror image of yourself but remember that roommates do not have to be best friends. It is not necessary to share every aspect of college living together. In fact, learning to tolerate each other’s differences, without infringing on one another’s freedoms can be a valuable part of your education.
Good intentions do not always lead to good relationships! But, how do you sit down with someone you have known for years or with someone you have just met and attempt to discuss the expectations for the variety of situations that arise when you live together? This handout was designed to ease the getting acquainted process, as roommates. Although some of the questions may seem trivial at first, explore the answers with each other honestly and avoid the temptation to gloss over the differences.
(It is expected of us that we sit and talk with our prospective roommates and clear up any issues. The talking process turns into a very valuable learning process as well)
1. Introducing Myself: The Basics
Even though you may have talked about the basics, it is best to start at the very beginning, so take the initiative and jump in. Tell about yourself here before launching into all the other questions:
My full name… Where my hometown is… What my high school was like…and college if u are a grad student!! How many brothers and sisters I have – their names and ages… What kind of neighborhood I grew up in (city, suburb, farm (, etc.)…
How old I am and when my birthday is… What I am majoring in… Why I came to that specific university…2. Preferences and Habits
Now that you know the basics about each other, move into some of the more serious areas. One person should answer every question in this section and then give the other a chance to ask for clarification. Next, the other person should answer every question in this section.
When I like to sleep and how many hours I need What I have in the way of friends here How important it is for things to be neat and clean How I feel about my possessions – like what is okay for you to borrow or use and what things I prefer not to have others touch The grades I hope to earn this year and how important that is to me What my study habits probably will be like this term Some habits of mine that it might be important for you to know about What I like to spend money on when I have some What my health is like most of the time and what I like to do for exercise How I feel about living away from home How I feel about having guests over to our home What kinds of extracurricular activities I want to get involved in3. About My Emotional Style
If you realize that you’ve been skipping questions or joking around, think about why. Make an effort to remain sincere and honest, and continue on.The purpose of these questions is to help you learn some of your similarities and differences; do not be afraid to note some differences among yourselves – this is what makes us individuals.
Something that is likely to annoy me… Something that will cheer me up when I’m down… Something that can get me tense and uptight… Times when I would prefer to be left alone… How I feel about conflict (it might be helpful to think of past situations you have been in and how you have resolved them)…4. About My Personal Values
When you are sharing reactions in this section, make an effort to be specific. Mention specific behaviors. Be open and honest.Later, while you’re living together, if your values begin to change, remember this handout. Try talking out the issues again using your communication skills of listening, being specific, being open, honest, and considerate.
How do I feel about drugs and drinking….
Which aspects of my social life are important to me… What my religious values are… What other people seem to think are some important traits of mine (like parents or friends)… What it is like for me to go out and make friends… Things I feel roommates should do together – include activities such as: cleaning, grocery shopping, eating, campus activities… How I feel about overnight guests in our home… How I feel about parties and socializing… What I want to do with my freedom away from home…5. Conclusion
In conclusion, you should talk over the following topics to discover your points of agreement.
Something I like about you is… It appears to me that an important similarity between us is… I think an important difference between us is… I think we might have to compromise on…
This hand out is given to all tamu freshers as a tool to try and get to know their roommates better!!! I hope this can be utilized by others as well and would help sort out issues!! I have deliberately removed a few points which I thought were completely irrelevant in the present context or which were too tamu specific!!!
Source: http://studentlife.tamu.edu/


































